THE BLAME GAME

         He is a brilliant banker at 37, he is already the zonal head of his bank, and will soon gain more promotion. He is comfortable, lovable and happily married. But wait a minute! Happily married? Almost he says. His marriage would have perfect and he would have been the happiest man in world but…and there he goes: but, but, but……if only his wife was a little bit patient, less aggressive and talks less, she talks too much and jumps to conclusions too quickly. Right now he is not so very happy, and his wife is the cause of it.

         His wife is a 30 years old beauty: tall, elegant and very intelligent. She is a top ranking marketing manager of a telecommunications company. She makes friends easily ,popular and well respected. Her husband would have  been the best man in the world, but, but……if only he can be more open and stop hiding his mobile phone from her, and stop calling every good looking lady around him sister, or stop being stingy with his money, or stop visiting his mother too often. If only…… she would have been the happiest woman in the world.

         What about John the technocrat? He is a deputy director in a federal government ministry, and enjoys his work. His only problem is his boss in his office who does not like to see his face. And so John is always gloomy and depressed when going to work, because he has no choice but to work with his boss who hates him so much. Meanwhile, john`s boss spends a lot of time discussing with his pastor daily, followed by fervent prayers. The subject of the prayer is of course John: that God should send his powerful wind to low John away. John`s boss would have been a very happy and fulfilled man but for his wicked assistance who wishes him dead so that he can take over his position of director. he prays: O God! if only John could die or be sacked, my joy will be so great and of course I will make more donations to your church.

         If you are one of the majorities in our society who have fallen into this negative mindset, I have good news for you,you can set yourself free from this negative mindset. You  can become free to actualize your potentials, and be the self you really want to be. Nobody, no condition, can make you unhappy. Your happiness does not lie in the hand of anybody. Only you can make yourself happy. This month,I challenge you to take charge of your life. Look around you and you will be amazed at how easily we shift responsibilities for our happiness to others

, or blame others for our problems,failures and mistakes.It is called the blame game because, this is how it goes:

         Ten years ago my father called me a fool, which had a negative psychological effect on me. Since then I have been a fool,and I am likely to remain a fool forever. So don’t blame me if I am irresponsible or UN-serious. Blame my father. He caused it.

         It is not my fault that I lose my temper at every slight provocation. It is the fault of my uncle` wife who gave me winch ten years ago.

         It is not my fault that I have sat for jamb more than six times without meeting the cut off mark. It is the fault of those wicked examiners who did not allow me to cheat in the exam hall

         It is my children`s fault that I am not moving ahead in my career. They are just too demanding.

         It is not my fault but my mother in-laws fault that my marriage broke up.

         It is not my fault that am always falling sick, it is the fault of my wife who does not cook a balanced diet in the house.

         It is my wife`s fault that I always get drunk every weekend. If she had been a more caring housewife, I would not have turned to drinking to drive away loneliness.

         They are everywhere and constantly complaining about their ex husbands or ex wives,their bosses, their loneliness,they are the married people who are constantly complaining about their children, their lack of money, their lack of  communication, their lack of understanding, and so on.
Don't play the blame game.