understanding singleness

Contentment with being alone involves learning how to be fulfilled in your singleness.
A truly single person is one who is complete physically,emotionally,spiritually and intellectually without dependence upon anyone else.

Successful singles find their personal identity and sense of wholeness within themselves and in relationship with God. They can strive and prosper whether or not in a relationship.
Singleness gives you the opportunity to give undivided attention to the pursuit of spiritual growth and a deep relationship with the Lord.
Unfettered with the ties of marriage and other serious relationships,single people are free to concern themselves wholly with the things of God. Make the most of this time in your life. Learn to grow deep with God and love him by yourself first.
Work to develop yourself fully as a single person. Learn to be like Adam;get completely lost in God today. Become so consumed in God that He will have to interrupt you to bring to bring another person in your life.
Think of singleness as a blessing and a perfect opportunity on character development. You will have fewer distractions,a single-minded commitment and a more open attitude because you will not be pressured by the need to please anyone except God.
Learn to be an asset first. You should be preoccupied with preparing yourself for whomever God is preparing for you. Use this time in life to prepare yourself.
True singleness is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. When you can be alone and enjoy it,you are a self confident and self_aware person. You are well adjusted and not needing other people's approval to feel okay about yourself. It means you have your act together are ready for a deeper relationship. You have discovered and accepted who you are and can now truly give and share yourself with others. You are ready to relate(effectively).

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Key Differences Between Guidance and Counseling

Counseling is a more inward analysis, whereas guidance is much more external
· Counseling is in-depth, narrowing down the problem until the client understands his/her own problem, but guidance is broader and comprehensive.

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Natural inclination

Natural inclination comprises of two words “natural” and “inclination”.

Natural according to the oxford dictionary is defined as “existing in or derived from nature” while Macmillan dictionary defines it as “existing in nature and not produced or caused by people”.

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WHAT WILL HELP THE PARENTS LIVE LONGER

The desire of every man is to live long; no man will like to die early. Even the great educated elites that were past leaders of the world wished to finish their work before dying. Some of the leaders of the church that encountered God in the field of their work wished to finish their work before going to heaven. Example is st. Paul the great preacher of his time. But if I may ask, is there any time that is too early or short for a man to die? The answer is yes.

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How to know the most intelligent one among your children

There are various classes in this life. A president of a country is from a family and a poor laborer is also from a family, but the two are not in the same level. How old one is does not determine how rich in knowledge one is going to be. The first son/daughter in your family may depend on your last son/daughter financially in the future.

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What determines what a child will be in future

Surely, the future of every nation strongly depends on the character of her present generation. If the people are the type that inherited ugly character from their parents, it means that the nation is going to suffer.

 The same problem they encountered will continue to grow at a higher level. The only thing that will make that nation have a better generation in the future is to find a very good way to stop that corruption. What about a father/mother that has a child that inherited one/two ugly character from him/her? Is it not surprising to see a child that behaves like his/her parents? The truth is always clear, any parent that understands his/her poor character will regret about it.

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THE BLAME GAME

         He is a brilliant banker at 37, he is already the zonal head of his bank, and will soon gain more promotion. He is comfortable, lovable and happily married. But wait a minute! Happily married? Almost he says. His marriage would have perfect and he would have been the happiest man in world but…and there he goes: but, but, but……if only his wife was a little bit patient, less aggressive and talks less, she talks too much and jumps to conclusions too quickly. Right now he is not so very happy, and his wife is the cause of it.

         His wife is a 30 years old beauty: tall, elegant and very intelligent. She is a top ranking marketing manager of a telecommunications company. She makes friends easily ,popular and well respected. Her husband would have  been the best man in the world, but, but……if only he can be more open and stop hiding his mobile phone from her, and stop calling every good looking lady around him sister, or stop being stingy with his money, or stop visiting his mother too often. If only…… she would have been the happiest woman in the world.

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Know this about helping people

Helping people is not just about giving money or alms to them; it goes beyond that.though its a kind gesture to do so, but you can still express love and kindness just by listening(James 1;19) just as God hears, when you call him, he expects you to listen to the cry of the poor and needy around you.
  Love smiles A little smile can warm a cold heart.sometimes, you just need to put a smile on your face to spark up the light of hope in a hopeless soul.remember the song, "show a little bit of love and kindness?"  line of that song says, "Take a little time to reach for joy and wear a happy face."

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YOU THINK YOU ARE BUSY

 

  question?

 Rabbi, I appreciate your invitation to join your classes, but I just don't have time in my life for spirituality right now. My week is packed with work, family commitments, fitness, and a little socializing and time to relax. I don't see where I can fit in spiritual activities. I don't want to burn out, do I?

Answer:

There was once a rabbi teaching a classroom full of students. He started his lesson by saying, "My dear students, today is our last class together before you graduate. For this special occasion I am going to do something different. I am going to teach you the secret of a good cholent."
The students were aghast. Cholent, the traditional Jewish stew, is a classic of Jewish cooking, but hardly a profound subject for a rabbi to teach his students for their final lesson.
The rabbi took out a crock pot and filled it to the brim with potatoes. He then turned to his students and
asked, "Tell me, now that I have filled the pot with potatoes—is the pot full?" "Yes," his students replied, confused by the simplicity of the question, for there was no way to fit in any more potatoes into the pot.
With a smile, the rabbi took out a bag of beans and poured it into the pot, and the beans managed to slip between the spaces among the potatoes. "Okay," said the rabbi, "now is the pot full?" Looking into the pot,
the students agreed that it was indeed full. Without missing a beat, the rabbi took out a bag of barley and poured it into the pot. The small kernels meandered effortlessly between the cracks and crevices among the potatoes and beans.
"Now it's full," said the students. "Really?" said the rabbi, taking out his collection of spices. He then began shaking generous amounts of salt, pepper, paprika and garlic powder all over the pot. The students watched dumbfounded as the spices easily settled into what had seemed to be a completely full pot.
The rabbi, obviously enjoying himself, asked again, "Is it full yet?" Without waiting for the answer, the rabbi produced a jug of water and proceeded to pour its contents into the pot. To the amazement of his students, he was able to empty the entire jug of water into the pot without a drop spilling over the sides.
"All right," said the rabbi, a look of satisfaction on his face. "Now it really is full, right?" The students all nodded in agreement. "Are you sure?" prodded the rabbi. "Are you absolutely certain that I can't fit anything more into this pot?" Suddenly unsure of themselves, the students looked at each other nervously and said, "Surely you can't put anything else into there!" With drama and pathos, the rabbi raised a finger in the air, lowered it slowly, and flicked a switch on the side of the pot, turning on the heating element lying beneath. "You see," said the rabbi triumphantly, "I just filled the pot with the most important ingredient of all—warmth. Without it, the pot may as well be empty." The rabbi paused, and looked deeply into the eyes of his stunned students. "My children," he finally addressed them, "you are about to leave my class and go on to live busy lives. In the big world out there, you will no longer have the luxury of studying holy texts all day. In time you will be consumed by the pressures of looking after a family and making a living. But always remember this: your material pursuits are just the potatoes and beans of life. Your
spirituality, that is the warmth. "Until the fire is turned on, the pot is full of disparate ingredients. It is the warmth that unites them all into one single stew.
"If you don't maintain a spiritual connection, through praying every day, studying the holy books, and keeping focused on the true meaning of your lives, then you will end up as a cold, raw cholent —very busy, very full, but completely empty. When you have lost touch with your soul, your family life will suffer, your career will be unfulfilling, you won't be motivated even to exercise.
"But if you keep the fire burning in your soul, if you stick to a daily schedule that nourishes the spirit, even if it is only for a few minutes a day, then those few minutes will bring warmth and inspiration to all your other activities. A spiritual connection imbues your entire life with meaning, keeps you anchored and directed, inspired and motivated. It permeates all you do with a sense of purpose, and makes you succeed.
"You may be wondering," continued the rabbi, "how will you have time for all this. How will you be able to juggle the demands of material life along with your spiritual development? You will find the answer by looking at the cholent. Did you notice that, though the pot seemed full of potatoes, beans, barley, spices and water, when I added the warmth it did not overflow? Never think that adding spirituality to your schedule will overburden you. On the contrary, it will bring everything else in your life together, because it will remind you why you do all these other things in the first place: you work in order to be able to live a life of meaning, you get married in order to bring the best out in yourself and your spouse, you have children in order to educate them in the ways of goodness, you keep fit in order to have the strength to fulfill your mission. Spirituality is the warmth that does not take up space, it creates more." With a loving smile, the rabbi concluded his farewell with words of wisdom that I think apply equally to you:
"You should never think that you are so busy that you can't afford to concentrate on your soul. The truth is, you can't afford not to. May G‑d bless you that each and every one of you should always be a warm pot of cholent."

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